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Mixed Marriage

April

I’m in a mixed marriage: I like to spend; my husband likes to save. Apparently, I’m not alone. Marriage experts say many couples tend to marry their “opposite;” one who’s more liberal or conservative with their money.

And yes, it can bring problems. I, for one, never like him to know how much I spend on my kid’s clothes (or makeup or hair or birthday gifts); he, on the other hand, wants to know where all my money has gone (especially since I’m often asking him for $20 as I rush out the door to work so I have “lunch money” for the day.)

Am I alone in keeping some things secret? I think not! (Part of why I love working and earning my own money!!)

This entry was posted on Thursday, April 26th, 2007 at 12:36 pm by Jeanne Muchnick.
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3 Responses to “Mixed Marriage”

Steve C. April 27th, 2007 at 2:23 pm
Its nice to know you have money to burn. fine as long as its your money and not the pooled money that pays for the global house expenses fine. but if you are expecting him to pay all the bills and left with nothing while you have fun. well thats wrong.
Don May 1st, 2007 at 11:03 pm
wheather you have the money or not,it doesn`t feel very good.How does it feel to you? Do you think it`s good thing?I know I would have some feeling of betrayal and the trust would go out the window. Don
Deborah May 2nd, 2007 at 10:18 am
I have to say that I tend to “hide” certain things, like how much I pay for highlights or a new Furla handbag, but these indulgences aren’t constant. H. and I have had trouble jointly managing money, and in my experience, having too many secrets isn’t a good things-it can screw up your bottomline, affect savings, etc. I think the best way to go (at least this is what works for us) is to have a transparent budget with the understanding that each of us gets some mad money to spend as we please.

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