Married with (male) friends
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Show of hands: how many of you married women “out there” still get together with your unmarried or married GUY friends ALONE? Meaning sans hubby? I do, and a lot of my friends look at me like I have two heads. Like being friends with a member of the opposite sex is taboo. I say it’s not. Just because I’m married doesn’t mean I have to do EVERYthing with my husband. I see my girl friends all the time. Being married doesn’t mean I can’t still be friends with my formerly unmarried guy friends either. (This I say as I plan a birthday dinner with my friend Kenny because my kids have a camp show and Mark graciously is going that night and I’ll go the next). Personally, I think it also sets a good example for my daughters to see that friends of any sex can be pals and that being married means you can trust each other. What do you think? Do you think I’m a harlot?
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I go out with married female friends all the time. Neither my wife nor their husband objects. If you have a strong relationship, it’s not a problem.
My children have only one time thought anything of it, and my wife expressed to them that she was unconcerned, so they should be as well. No words since.
Definitely a harlot… only kidding. I have more male friends than female friends (less drama). They all know my kids and my husband, and sometimes we do things all together, and sometimes it’s just my friend and me. It’s only a problem if someone makes it a problem, and you have to deal with whatever the insecurity is.
Harlot? Hardly. What kind of friendship is it if it ends when you get married? And what kind of marriage if you don’t trust your spouse?
Not a harlot. because there’s no proof. right?
What about a husband who wants to develop new friendships with women (married or unmarried) he meets inside or outside of work. Is this appropriate behavior?
It wouldn’t be fair of me to demand something that I wouldn’t agree to for my husband – of course it’s OK, as long as it stays a friendship. And that goes for both sides.
I just came across this feed of conversation today. I too continue to maintain a friendship with a single male friend even though I am married. My husband trusts me, and the hardest part is for others who hear of this married woman/single man friendship to believe its just a friendship. I have more male friends than female friends also. I find the men to be more sincere about being in a friendship.
While I think we shd definitely have friends of the opposite sex after we’re married, questions do arise about where the boundaries should be. For instance, you can hang out and do some things together with your male friend, but what about having dinner at a romantic restaurant (as an example). Or, the old question, can you be friends now with an ex or someone you once had chemistry with? thoughts?